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Hello everyone,
Let's dive into a deep and often complex subject: emotional dependence, linked to the wound of abandonment and that of rejection which are wounds of the ego (and not wounds of the soul).
These themes affect many individuals and are rooted in unconscious, sometimes karmic, mechanisms.
I am here to offer you insight into these dynamics and accompany you on the path to healing.
The Deep Origins of Emotional Dependence
Emotional dependency often finds its source in our personal, family and karmic history. Karma is a continuity of our previous lives, but also a set of collective and family memories. These old wounds, whether related to abandonment or rejection, can manifest themselves in our current relationships.
The wound of abandonment
In the context of karma, the wound of abandonment is literally being an orphan, it is not limited to a simple feeling of loneliness or dependence. It is linked to a visceral fear of separation and death of the other, starting with one's parents. This irrational fear can be awakened in a more concrete way in so-called "karmic" relationships, whatever the couple (parent/child or "classic" couple), where dynamics of the type "run away from me, I'll follow you" appear.
This wound is often rooted in past lives where unresolved grief, such as the loss of a spouse, or parents, has created a memory of deep pain.
These patterns reactivate in our current life, causing dependent behaviors or irrational fears. Healing these wounds requires deep work on karma.
The wound of rejection
This injury directly affects our perception of the value we give ourselves and the attention we receive. It can be linked to parental relationships, often with the parent of the same sex. As children, we have varied needs (physical, emotional, intellectual) that our parents cannot always fully meet.
This can create a feeling of rejection or non-recognition.
In our adult lives, these wounds can translate into a tendency to seek approval or love from others, sometimes excessively. We then measure our own love or value through the actions of others, such as gifts, attention or even professional recognition.
This mechanism can lead to frustrations and unbalanced relationships.
Emotional dependency in everyday life
Emotional dependency is not limited to romantic relationships. It can affect many areas of life:
Family relationships : excessive expectation of love or recognition.
Professional life : constant search for congratulations, thanks from superiors or colleagues.
Friendships and sociability : need for attention and continuous presence.
It can also be expressed through physical dependencies, such as addiction to food, sports, adrenaline or substances.
These compensatory behaviors often reflect an emotional void.
How to cure emotional dependency?
Becoming aware of your wounds : Identifying the patterns that repeat themselves in your relationships and behaviors.
Working on your karma : Emotional dependency is often linked to deep karmic memories. By working on these memories, you will be able to release the emotions and fears associated with them.
Self-centering : Learn to meet your needs through yourself and not through others. This may include personal development practices and self-awareness.
Rethink the notion of value : The value you give yourself should not depend on others, but on yourself. Have value for yourself. Treat yourself: give yourself gifts!
Surround yourself with healthy relationships : Look for balanced relationships based on mutual respect and sharing, not on excessive expectations or unbalanced exchange. Take a step back from people who tire you out.
Conclusion
Emotional dependency is a complex phenomenon, rooted in our personal, family and karmic wounds. Understanding its origins is essential to begin a healing process. This journey can be long, but it opens the way to more balanced relationships and greater harmony with oneself.
Take care of yourself, and see you soon to continue this journey towards fulfillment!
Angelic
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