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Experience a relational quality aligned with oneself

Hello everyone!


Let's tackle an essential theme: relational quality. We often hear about energies, vibrational rates or spiritual levels, but it is important to go beyond these notions to understand what really corresponds to us in our relationships.

Here is a metaphorical and practical reflection to guide you.


No competition, but a search for alignment


Let's start with a fundamental idea: there is no race for spiritual or energetic evolution. Everyone has a unique relational configuration, a configuration that is specific to them and that influences the way they interact with others. This configuration is partly innate, but it can evolve over time, thanks to our experiences and our desire for personal growth.


In the same family, it is common to find different relational software. We live with parents, brothers and sisters, even neighbors, who have completely different parameters from ours. This diversity can be a wealth, but it can also create misunderstandings if we are not aware of our differences.


The relational building: a metaphor for better understanding


Imagine a multi-story building. You may live on the 11th floor, while your parents or colleagues are on the 4th or 7th. Communicating with them often involves going up and down floors, which can be exhausting after a while.

  • Going down a level : This means adapting your communication style to their relationship level. This may include more patience, empathy, or even compromise.

  • Climbing Floors : This is about inspiring others to evolve or see things differently, but it can never be forced.

The key is to find a balance between these adjustments and your own well-being. You can't always adjust your level to please or understand others.


Responsibility for our relationship choices


For a long time, we may believe that it is others who are not suited to us. But over time, we understand that it is up to us to choose the environments and people who resonate with our way of being. This responsibility is liberating, because it allows us to regain control over the quality of our relationships.

There are no “good” or “bad” people. There are simply individuals whose relationship software is compatible or not with ours. This doesn’t negate their value, but it does mean that sometimes we have to make the choice to walk away from certain relationships in order to preserve our energy and well-being.


The stages of relational maturity


Over time, we become aware of our own relationship potential. This may include:

  • Recognizing your needs : Understanding what we expect from a relationship, whether in terms of communication, respect or sharing.

  • Openness to others : Accepting differences while being clear about what we are prepared to tolerate or not.

  • Responsibility for your choices : Choosing relationships that nourish our fulfillment without waiting for others to change for us.


The role of relational updates


Like software, our relational settings can evolve through life experiences. We learn to know ourselves better, identify our values, adjust our expectations and meet our needs. This evolution sometimes requires getting rid of old relationships that no longer correspond to our level of maturity.

It is also essential to stop blaming others for their limitations.

Everyone moves at their own pace, and it is essential to respect this while remaining aligned with oneself.


How to improve your relationship quality?


  1. Identify your own floors : Where are you located in your relational building? What are your basic needs and expectations?

  2. Choose your entourage : Surround yourself with people who share your vision of life and your way of communicating.

  3. Accept differences : Not all your neighbors will be perfectly compatible, but that doesn't mean you have to burn bridges. Look for compromises without forgetting each other.

  4. Taking care of your relationships : Relationship quality is nourished by small gestures.

  5. Recognize signs of incompatibility : If certain relationships become exhausting or harmful, know how to take a step back to evaluate whether they are worth continuing or transforming.


The metaphor of the building is the same for his family, his friends, his work colleagues...


Integrating compassion and empathy


High relational quality is not limited to technical or behavioral adjustments. It involves an inner posture of compassion and empathy, not only towards others, but also towards oneself. Allowing oneself to be imperfect, accepting one's mistakes, but also those of others, is opening the way to more authentic and enriching relationships.


Conclusion

Relationship quality is based on deep introspection and conscious choice of the relationships we maintain. This may take time and energy, but the result is a life surrounded by people with whom we share authentic and nourishing exchanges.


Take some time to think about your relationships, your needs and what you are willing to offer.

And remember: life is always straight ahead, full of new opportunities for encounters and sharing.


I wish you a very nice day and beautiful, fulfilling relationships to come!


Angelic



Living a relational quality aligned with oneself: understanding and choosing authentic relationships



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